10 ways to control your Anger

Other day my very good friend had this Anger management issue so I thought why not share my learning from different people on how they control their Anger.

Anger is a normal and natural human feeling, especially nowadays as life is really fast and we have a huge amount of information to accumulate (in comparison with our previous generations). Anger can be quick and long, lasting for years in form of bitterness, vengeance or hate. Anger can lead to health issues like depression, high blood pressure, hearth diseases, stresses and obesity. If you are anger- express it. If you feel discomfort from these “negative splashes”- then try some techniques on how to manage your emotional anger:

1. Take a deep and continuous breath. Close your eyes and start breathing slowly. Inhale and Exhale atleast 25 times.

2. Have a walk. Look at high sky. Continue to breathe deep and easily. Appreciate the beauty around you.

3. Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

4. Write down all your thoughts. Write down that you are mad and why. Avoid being rational, logical or laconic. Write on paper all you are feeling this moment. Try to write all in details. The function of this technique is to shift all your anger out of your head on paper.

5. Be grateful. Find someone to thank. Do you not forget about yourself. Thank that you have woken up today, thank that that the Sun is shining for you, that the sky is blue and the grass is green.

6. Prayer. Ask God to be with you during this anger moment and lead you.

7. Meditation. Close your eyes, create a virtual screen in front of you and see yourself relaxing, breathing deeply.

8. Change of places. Move yourself on your enemy’s place. And look at situation from his point of view. Better look at the situation from the ceiling. Focus on details, especially on funny and absurd ones. Strive to forgive your enemy as well as forgive truly yourself.

9. Go back to your childhood memories. Recollect state when you were angry. Hug this child and say: “All is ok. I am here. You are good child. I love you and I will not leave you.”

10. Your values. What is the most significant thing in your life? Who are the most important people in your life? What kind of person do you want to be? Think and accept that point that you are living your life, and you are living your values. There is a good man inside you that wants to help you. I wish you good luck!